In every relationship, a balance exists. The type of balance varies within the context of each individual relationship, depending on a number of different factors. The majority of the balance is due to functions of the human condition beyond our control, mainly hormones and pheromones that occur naturally in our bodies. We can't change them.
Sometimes our bodies betray us and attract the wrong sort of people, people who are able to "smell" our unique dysfunctions and manipulate them to achieve their own selfish goals. Other times, two people are brought together because, right or wrong, they simply compliment each other. I'm no human biologist and I couldn't begin to explain the "hows" or "whys" of this situation, but having experienced both conditions myself I'm aware that they exist.
Bear and I have always had "a way"... the natural ebb and flow, the organic way that we behave around each other. Neither one of us are superior/inferior to the other, we coexist and have been together for the past four years because our weaknesses and strengths correspond and help the other person to grow and change for the better. In our relationship, we share everything. We talk, we fight sometimes, we give in and compromise. We simply love each other - no pretensions or desires to make the other person into someone they're not.
And in our relationship, I am naturally submissive. Much like the breaking down and reforming of molecules, no two objects are exactly the same. My submission to Bear would never be the same as my assumed submission to someone else. In fact, I've never been submissive to anyone else besides Bear. It's something that I've embraced as the unique behavior it is. He is dominant. I am submissive. That's our way.
It's with the understanding that we have come full circle and embraced each other's essential unchangeable nature (both positive and negative) that we embark on the next path in our lives together - we're moving back in. It feels right this time - not the result of a forced hand or jumping in head first. We've grown so much in the past year and a half that we're finally ready to give it a complete go this time. Wish us luck.
Sometimes our bodies betray us and attract the wrong sort of people, people who are able to "smell" our unique dysfunctions and manipulate them to achieve their own selfish goals. Other times, two people are brought together because, right or wrong, they simply compliment each other. I'm no human biologist and I couldn't begin to explain the "hows" or "whys" of this situation, but having experienced both conditions myself I'm aware that they exist.
Bear and I have always had "a way"... the natural ebb and flow, the organic way that we behave around each other. Neither one of us are superior/inferior to the other, we coexist and have been together for the past four years because our weaknesses and strengths correspond and help the other person to grow and change for the better. In our relationship, we share everything. We talk, we fight sometimes, we give in and compromise. We simply love each other - no pretensions or desires to make the other person into someone they're not.
And in our relationship, I am naturally submissive. Much like the breaking down and reforming of molecules, no two objects are exactly the same. My submission to Bear would never be the same as my assumed submission to someone else. In fact, I've never been submissive to anyone else besides Bear. It's something that I've embraced as the unique behavior it is. He is dominant. I am submissive. That's our way.
It's with the understanding that we have come full circle and embraced each other's essential unchangeable nature (both positive and negative) that we embark on the next path in our lives together - we're moving back in. It feels right this time - not the result of a forced hand or jumping in head first. We've grown so much in the past year and a half that we're finally ready to give it a complete go this time. Wish us luck.
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Sunday, January 07, 2007.
