You'll have to excuse me if this post seems rushed, a recent lack of sexual contact has left me more "on edge" than usual. It's with good reason, his back spasms have been flaring up more painfully this time, but I'm still feeling deprived.

Anyhow... last night I was having a conversation with someone that I hope to be able to call a friend (in the most meaningless internet turn of the phrase) in the near future, and the conversation turned to limits. Mainly, if we had them and what they were. I answered with honesty, at least I thought I did at the time. Over lunch and a glass of Riesling I may have changed my answer.

Sure, I have hard limits. I would never take part in any sexual activity with animals or children, but I also believe that limits are not set by the individual. Limits are set by the couple. Something that feels right in one relationship may become a hard limit in another. For instance, I would never have dreamed of trusting my ex-husband with any sharp objects around me but I would, and have, let Bear draw blood. It feels ok in this context, in this relationship.

So my answer to the limit question is simply that - with few exceptions they're all able to change. I consider it a strong personality trait that I am capable of reconsidering things without negativity. If something I believe is wrong, I have no problem saying so and working to change it. Of course at this point, a week or so into involuntary abstinence, I'd probably let someone do much more intense things. I'm simply that needful. I'm overwhelmed with the desire to be hit right now. So much so that I'm almost willing to do it myself...

On a side note, I was teasing my best friend about adding her to the site with the concept of creating a bisexual or not poll. She simply can't make up her mind. Help her out. :)